"This isn't a question of who I love more or trying to divide time between my husband and kids as if life were a pie I can slice into equal pieces." - Devon Corneal, Huffington Post If you're basically like every other mom in the history of the world, like me, you've probably discovered that maintaining that fun, carefree, lust fueled marriage you had pre-kids is a challenge, if not downright impossible some (most???) days.
I admit (begrudgingly) that some nights when I can't sleep I like to cuddle with my son - his smell, the rhythm of his breath, those tiny little hands - oddly his little presence calms any anxiety. Of course, pre-baby, that anxiety cure would have been my husband. I forego "serious" conversations to talk about how cute Miles was at preschool. I feel guilty when I leave Miles with his grandparents so my husband and I can go on a date. The list goes on and on. It is so easy to get caught up in our little angels. And honestly, sometimes even when I make a deliberate effort to speak with my husband, Miles won't let us. A couple months ago he started demanding that we "stop talking" anytime the conversation doesn't involve him. Sigh. It's a constant tug-of-war, which is why I really liked this little article. I always find it therapuetic to have a reminder that I'm not the only one involved in that never-ending obstacle course of maintaining not just pre-baby me, but also pre-baby marriage. Check out the full article here.