I'm Back and Not Leaning In

So, it’s been almost a month since my last post. As much as I love my little blog, I don’t always have as much time as I’d like to spend on my little passion projects. Did y’all see/hear the Michelle Obama comment last week. Basically, she was like, “y’all need to stop lying, you can’t do and be everything to everyone everywhere.” Actually, she didn’t say that, here is her exact quote:

“I tell women, that whole ‘you can have it all’ — nope, not at the same time; that’s a lie,” Obama said. “It’s not always enough to lean in because that s--- doesn’t work.”

Honestly, I think there was a collective sigh of relief from sooooooo many women. Women, especially modern women with first world problem privileges, are so conditioned to believe we have to do and be everything to be “successful.” We need multiple degrees from the best schools, we need to bake homemade goodies for our kids’ PTA events, our kids need to look like a JCrew catalog at all times, and our kids better be well mannered and say the right things in public, we need to rush our kids around to a million different activities so we can guarantee they will be cultured and well rounded, we need to be sexy and in shape, we need to be the rock and foundation of our family, we need to be the best and most support wife mother sister daughter friend that ever existed. Shall I go on?? My point is that there is an impossible standard that is driving us all mad. And look, there are some women who can pull this off - the whole have everything do everything superwoman persona. And I think that’s amazing. Honestly. But even those that do, I would almost guarantee that behind them is a supportive partner, family, friends - something more than just them trying to carry the weight of the world on their perfectly manicured pinky while they wear 6” heels.

So, all of that is to say, I’m back - for now! Hahahah! I took a bit of time off to focus on some mental and physical wellness, spend more time with my kids, work on projects for my kids school, finish critical end of year work projects, and spend time with family. I don’t have time for everything, but I’m making time for what I can when I can. Right now there is a ginormous pile of laundry on my basement couch. I’m going through it slowly, and I’m just not going to stress out about it …. Because Michelle Obama told me it was ok.

Crystal Ahmadi